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Joel Atlas Skirble
Aug 22, 2016 | 264 views | 0 0 comments | 2 2 recommendations | email to a friend | print

Unveiling

An unveiling for Pittsburgh native Joel Atlas Skirble (January 22, 1945 to September 3, 2015) was held on August 14, 2016, at Garden of Remembrance, in Clarksburg, Md. Kehila Chadasha Rabbi David Shneyer officiated with loving family and friends in attendance.

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Kenneth P. Heiss
Aug 22, 2016 | 55 views | 0 0 comments | 2 2 recommendations | email to a friend | print

HEISS: Kenneth P. Heiss, on Friday, August 19, 2016. Beloved husband of Gail (Gordon) Heiss. Loving father of Laura Jean (Peter) Jannis of Boynton Beach, Fla., and Aaron (Anne) Heiss of Cleveland. Son of the late Max and Ethel Heiss. Brother of Rita (late Albert "Jack") Mellinger of Pittsburgh and Ian (Sandie) Heiss of Pittsburgh. Grandfather of Jacob, Ethan and Tira Heiss. Also survived by nieces and nephews. Ken served in the U.S. Air Force and was a businessman and entrepreneur.  Services were held at Ralph Schugar Chapel, Inc. Interment Torath Chaim Cemetery. Contributions may be made to Southwest Veteran Center, 7060 Highland Drive, Pittsburgh, PA  15206.  schugar.com

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Julian Eligator
Aug 22, 2016 | 61 views | 0 0 comments | 2 2 recommendations | email to a friend | print

ELIGATOR: Julian Eligator died on August 18 at the Smilow Cancer Hospital of Yale New Haven Hospital. For 35 years, Dr. Eligator was an internist, and later medical director, of the Russelton Medical Group, and the HMO of Western Pennsylvania, an early HMO. The group originally provided medical care for coal miners and their families at the Miners' Clinic in New Kensington and satellite offices. He was devoted to his colleagues and staff. A native of New England, he grew up in Portland, Conn., and attended public schools there, where he played saxophone in the band and developed a love of tennis and basketball. He attended Tufts College and Tufts Medical School and specialized in internal medicine. He later served as a captain and physician in the U.S. Air Force in eastern France from 1961 to 1964 at Toul-Rosieres Air Base. He was the son of Emma and Emil Eligator and the brother of Leona Levy (Jerome) of San Diego. Julian is survived by his wife of 60 years, Rhoda, and by his three children and seven grandchildren. They are: Edith Eligator (Robert Sansom) of Cambridge, England; Nancy Eligator, M.D., of Pittsburgh; and David Eligator (Margherita) of Burlingame, Calif. His grandchildren are: Philip, Cole and Emma Sansom; Joshua and Alison Pirl; and Adam and Benjamin Eligator. He was very close and devoted to his children and grandchildren. He had a deep abiding social compass and concern for social justice. He was active in Physicians for Social Responsibility, and also International Physicians for the Prevention of Nuclear War. He read widely about history and politics. He volunteered at a food bank, and canvassed his neighborhood to help “get out the vote.” He was an involved citizen. Since retirement, Julian has been active at Osher at Carnegie Mellon University, where he served a term as president and taught a popular course based on the articles of the New Yorker magazine. He enjoyed poker with friends, book clubs, activities at Temple Sinai, and especially being in the company of his family and friends. He will be sorely missed. Services were held at Temple Sinai. Interment West View Cemetery of Rodef Shalom Congregation. Donations may be made to the Greater Pittsburgh Community Food Bank, 1 North Linden Street, Duquesne, PA  15110.  Arrangements entrusted to Ralph Schugar Chapel, Inc., family owned and operated. schugar.com.

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Small Wins in Self- Esteem
by LouiseSilk
 Bubbe Wisdom
Aug 22, 2016 | 190 views | 0 0 comments | 2 2 recommendations | email to a friend | print | permalink

 Do  you know your inner critic? Does she doubt, judge, belittle you? Does she tell you that you are not good enough? Does she say negative hurtful things to you—things that you would never ever dream of saying to anyone else?

A critic might seem useful, but really when she is within you, she can inhibit and limit you in such ways that you are robbed of your piece of mind and emotional well-being.  When your inner critic consistently labels you in a negative way, it has a demoralizing effect on the larger self-concept of who you are and what you can be and do.

You may ask,” but what if my critic is right?”  It doesn’t matter. Negative self-talk is never in your interest. There is always a kinder, better way to treat yourself that doesn’t involve negative labels and self-destructive mindsets.

To silence your inner critic:

1. Notice her during every conscious moment. Don’t let the negative thinking be automatic. Making the conscious effort to slow down and pay more attention to your thoughts and your emotions. Negative emotions such as doubt, guilt, shame, and worthlessness are almost always signs of your critic at work.

2. Separate the critic from you. She is not part of your authentic self. You were not born with her. She is a voice you have internalized based on outside influences such as other people’s criticism, expectations, or standards. Name her and call her out when you hear her.

3. Remove her power by talking back to her. Tell her you don’t want to hear what she has to say and what you are choosing instead is to be kind to yourself.  No matter what the inner critic has said, you do have positive traits that need to be acknowledged. Replace the critic with a stronger ally: an inner voice that acts as a friend. Start noticing and actively seek out the good things about yourself. Make a deliberate effort to say something positive whenever you hear your critic. Become your own best friend!

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