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Bubbe Wisdom by LouiseSilk
Unraveling the Threads of Life
Oct 19, 2010 | 308910 views | 0 0 comments | 229 229 recommendations | email to a friend | print | permalink

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Some More About Self-Esteem
by LouiseSilk
Aug 30, 2016 | 32 views | 0 0 comments | 0 0 recommendations | email to a friend | print | permalink

I received this note about my blog entry last week:

August 22, 2016 at 10:27 am           

Very helpful. The negative thoughts can occur instantaneously and even outside of our awareness. Important to slow down and notice even if in process of a behavior that is the outcome of the negative thought.

As a follow up to your post it would be helpful if you would write a blog about dealing with irrational self- beliefs and expectations ie. “I need to be perfect” “I need to be liked by everyone”?

Dear Reader, Thanks for taking this further. Underlying the core issue of low self-esteem is irrational thinking. Having personally experienced cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), I understand first-hand how we develop false concepts based upon our individual learning experiences, our parents' beliefs, and societal expectations. Challenge, fear, confusion, worry, criticism, grandiosity, all-or-nothing thinking, magical or delusional thinking, paranoia and leaps in logic bombard us to severely affect our individual belief system.

The first half of the battle comes in recognizing these irrational thinking styles and understanding how they developed.  It’s not easy to identify and it is more than likely that you will need the help from someone on the outside to recognize your personal irrationality. But it’s worth the effort, because once you label and dissect an irrational thought, you begin to take away some of its power.

One of the fundamental tools in cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) for the process of letting this false ideas go is a simple cognitive restructuring form called The Thought Record.  It takes each irrational self-belief, reveals its source, its underlying principle, and its link to a negative emotion giving you an opening into new more positive possibilities.  Try it. Again, from personal experience, I can assure you it works!

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Striking Back
by LouiseSilk
Aug 25, 2016 | 183 views | 0 0 comments | 5 5 recommendations | email to a friend | print | permalink

I heard a fascinating  interview on the BBC  with the deputy mayor of Nice, Christian Estrosi, about the resort town’s decision to ban the burkini, the full-body Islamic swimsuit. He explained that “hiding the face or wearing a full-body costume to go to the beach is not in keeping with our ideal of social relations” and was “founded on the subjugation and enslavement of women”.

The Nice ban refers specifically to July’s Bastille Day truck attack in the city that claimed 86 lives, and the murder 12 days later of a Catholic priest near the northern city of Rouen. The day after the Normandy church attack, wanting to react to issues of terrorism, security and the place of Islam in French society, the mayor of the French Riviera town of Cannes decided to ban burkinis from public beaches. Speaking in the name of public order and French secularism the ban criticized “ostentatious clothing which refers to an allegiance to terrorist movements which are at war with us”.

At the heart of the burkini row is the French principle of secularism, the strict separation of church and state to foster equality for all private beliefs. The state’s goal is to be neutral in terms of religion and allow everyone the freedom to practice their faith as long as there is no threat to public order.

On one hand it’s too bad the only way to fight terrorists is to expose the women. On the other maybe it’s a way to help liberate these women from their  own oppression. What I can say is I was quite intrigued with the deputy major of Nice and interested to understand the thinking that seeks retaliation through liberation.

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Small Wins in Self- Esteem
by LouiseSilk
Aug 22, 2016 | 325 views | 0 0 comments | 8 8 recommendations | email to a friend | print | permalink

 Do  you know your inner critic? Does she doubt, judge, belittle you? Does she tell you that you are not good enough? Does she say negative hurtful things to you—things that you would never ever dream of saying to anyone else?

A critic might seem useful, but really when she is within you, she can inhibit and limit you in such ways that you are robbed of your piece of mind and emotional well-being.  When your inner critic consistently labels you in a negative way, it has a demoralizing effect on the larger self-concept of who you are and what you can be and do.

You may ask,” but what if my critic is right?”  It doesn’t matter. Negative self-talk is never in your interest. There is always a kinder, better way to treat yourself that doesn’t involve negative labels and self-destructive mindsets.

To silence your inner critic:

1. Notice her during every conscious moment. Don’t let the negative thinking be automatic. Making the conscious effort to slow down and pay more attention to your thoughts and your emotions. Negative emotions such as doubt, guilt, shame, and worthlessness are almost always signs of your critic at work.

2. Separate the critic from you. She is not part of your authentic self. You were not born with her. She is a voice you have internalized based on outside influences such as other people’s criticism, expectations, or standards. Name her and call her out when you hear her.

3. Remove her power by talking back to her. Tell her you don’t want to hear what she has to say and what you are choosing instead is to be kind to yourself.  No matter what the inner critic has said, you do have positive traits that need to be acknowledged. Replace the critic with a stronger ally: an inner voice that acts as a friend. Start noticing and actively seek out the good things about yourself. Make a deliberate effort to say something positive whenever you hear your critic. Become your own best friend!

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Mike McClement
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August 22, 2016
I completely agree. Silencing the voice within your head is surely the first step to building self-esteem and ultimately self-confidence. I call this voice your gremlin. I spend a lot of time talking to mine! This blog really helps http://www.think-confidence.com/overcome-low-self-esteem

Awakening
by LouiseSilk
Aug 17, 2016 | 225 views | 1 1 comments | 13 13 recommendations | email to a friend | print | permalink
Awakening is the birthright of every created being. To know G-d is our destiny.

What would it feel like if you realized that, from the very beginning, you were designed to look for, to find, and to receive G-d? That you were designed to awaken to reality? How would it feel to know that this would definitely happen in your lifetime, because you were made to accomplish this very thing?

If you let yourself feel this, many things will drop away. Those are the things you no longer need. Try to let them go. What is left is the answer you were looking for and the reason you were born.

Jason Shulman; The Instruction Manual For Receiving God; Page 21.
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Ann Begler
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August 17, 2016
One of Jason's great ones. Thanks for the reminder!


A Tisha b’Av Dream
by LouiseSilk
Aug 14, 2016 | 643 views | 0 0 comments | 16 16 recommendations | email to a friend | print | permalink

Being the Ninth of Av I am struck by the contents of my dream last night and compelled to share it.

I dreamt I was teaching young students in the Yeshiva Girl’s School. (Did you know that the school is named for my grandparents, Sarah and Hymen Shapiro?) We were in a classroom with a large picture window were we could look out and see Forbes and the buildings on the other side of the street. 

Across the street was the ZOA Building (now replaced with the Mikva) but the facade was missing. Inside on both floors we could see individual orthodox men facing Forbes and praying (I wonder if that is facing East?). The building began to crumb and parts of it started to fall onto the street but the men kept praying uninterrupted or deterred by their impending danger.

I decided I could do nothing to help the men and decided to move the children I was working with into another area in the back of the building where they would not see the destruction of the building.  Then I woke up.

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Advice From A Sea Turtle
by LouiseSilk
Aug 12, 2016 | 245 views | 0 0 comments | 22 22 recommendations | email to a friend | print | permalink
Swim with the current.

Be a good navigator.

Stay clam under pressure.

Be well traveled.

Think long term.

Age gracefully.

Spend rime at the beach!

Your True Nature
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BubbeCamp
by LouiseSilk
Aug 08, 2016 | 377 views | 0 0 comments | 21 21 recommendations | email to a friend | print | permalink

Hot Dogs, beans, watermelon and ice cream sandwiches

Sky Lanterns

Name The Plants

Scrambled Eggs, Bagels and Berries

Morning Drawings

Care Package for Eva

Highland Park Picnic- sandwiches and cantaloupe slices

Uno Cards

Scrapbooking

Indoor Swimming

Sticker Assortments

Gourmet Grilled Cheese

Disney Movie

Pancakes

Hillary Video and Discussion

Story Telling Festival in Market Square

Five Guys

ReUse Center

Silk and Stewart Construction Site

Cherries Snack and Creative Play

Balloon Chocolate Bowls

Akeelah and the Bee

Pasta, Pizza and Salad

Night Out and Ice Balls

Alexander and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day

Panera Breakfast

Justice Clothing Selections

Tee-Shirt Shopping at Target

Oakland Play Park

John Riegert Exhibit

Woodstreet Galleries

Subway

Southside Works Sprinklers

Stacks

Scavenger Hunt

Parent Trap

Ice Cream Sundays

French Toast

Silk and Stewart Office Visit

North Side Water Stairs

Gus The Ice Ball Man

Parmesan Chicken and Sides

Legally Blonde

Dinosaur Painting

Upper St. Clair Swimming Pool

Chinese Food

Kate’s Bagels

Silk Screen T-shirts

D’s Dogs

To see the visuals on facebook go here or on utube go here.

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Not A 5 Star Hospital To Be Found Here
by LouiseSilk
Jul 29, 2016 | 640 views | 0 0 comments | 32 32 recommendations | email to a friend | print | permalink

Established by the Centers for Medicare & Medicaid Services (CMS), QualityNet provides healthcare reporting tools, include their latest ratings for Overall Hospital Quality.  They measured over 64 qualities, include quality measures for routine care given to the average patient at the hospital, to generate a single summary score. Their goal is to give consumers a way to make decisions on where to receive care.

Several of our local hospitals received below average marks. The ratings are reflected on a five-star scale with five being the highest.

UPMC hospitals:

    UPMC East – Four stars

    UPMC Northwest – Four stars

    UPMC Passavant – Four stars

    UPMC St. Margaret – Four stars

    UPMC McKeesport – Three stars

    Magee Women’s Hospital – Three stars

    UPMC Mercy – Two stars

    UPMC Presbyterian/Shadyside – Two stars

Allegheny Health Network hospitals:

    Jefferson Hospital – Four stars

    Allegheny Valley Hospital – Three stars

    Forbes Hospital – Three stars

    West Penn Hospital – Three stars

    Canonsburg General Hospital – Two stars

    Allegheny General Hospital – One star

For a complete list of the measures included in their report, visit their website here and to compare the hospitals closest to you go here.

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Herstory Being Made
by LouiseSilk
Jul 26, 2016 | 701 views | 0 0 comments | 34 34 recommendations | email to a friend | print | permalink

I remember well the forerunners- Shirley Chisholm, Bella Abzug, Patricia Schroeder, and Geraldine Ferraro. Now we have Hillary Clinton and I am loving every second of great anticipation in wait of the inauguration of 45th President of the United States and a little thought/question/wonder- what role awaits Michele Obama in the new administration?

P.S. In case, G-d forbid, you remember Phyllis Schlafly- She is 91, in attendance at the Republican convention and as off the mark as ever.

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The Eye Of The Needle
by LouiseSilk
Jul 20, 2016 | 644 views | 0 0 comments | 40 40 recommendations | email to a friend | print | permalink

I’ve returned from a successful four-day artist’s retreat. I have a history with The Artist’s Way that has helped me on many occasions to overcome some kind of block. This time I planned this new embroidery way back at the end of last year. With my well-honed practice of creating portraits in French knots, I was very disappointed in my in-ability to get it started- so much so that fear had taken hold. What if my eyes could no longer concentrate on the detail? What if my hands would no longer cooperate to thread the needle and create the knots? What I my color skills had lapsed in their ability to discern value?  Four-days without interruption was just the trick. I’m thrilled and now confident to continue on this project that had been previously beyond my grasp. Good use of time watching this awful political process!

 

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